A couple of weeks ago, I announced that I’m relaunching my podcast—this time focusing on female entrepreneurs: how they lead, how they grow their teams, and how they build businesses that last. Because I truly believe that we women lead differently.
This week, I finally sat down with Merlijn Mazairac to record the first episode, and I left feeling absolutely energized. From the start of our conversation, the connection was there. She spoke with such openness about living abroad, building her consulting company, and leading her team through growth and change.
Here are three ideas from her leadership journey that inspired me most:
1️⃣ Colleagues sitting side by side for years without really knowing each other. Merlijn has seen it happen, and now uses intentional exercises to help people open up and truly connect.
2️⃣ Team fails are leadership lessons. She reminded me that struggles, mismatched hires, disconnection, and even tough exits all carry value. Talking about them openly makes us better leaders—and helps others avoid the same mistakes.
3️⃣ Salary conversations in times of inflation. She doesn’t shy away from the tough talks—the ones that test not just your budget, but your leadership itself.
For me, this first recording is about growing as a leader by listening to the honest stories of others. I’m deeply grateful to Merlijn for sharing her journey so openly—and excited for all the conversations ahead.
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I didn’t start a company to be told which chair to buy, how many minutes a lunch break has to be, or whether my break room snacks meet code. I started it because I believed in building something better, and I wanted a team to build it with.
But what I’ve learned over 13 years as a California employer is this: the system doesn’t trust employers to care about their people. It assumes we’re out to exploit, and it assumes compliance creates care. So it piles on rule after rule, not realizing that the weight of all this regulation doesn’t protect good people—instead, I believe it crushes the ones who are trying to be good people.
As a female entrepreneur, I’ve always wanted to give my team the best. Yet I’ve spent more time worrying about lunch break laws than about how to help my people grow. To me, that’s not what leadership is supposed to look like.
Because I believe the best entrepreneurs do care. We remember birthdays. We pull all-nighters. We put payroll before profit. Not because a rulebook told us to, but because that’s who we entrepreneurs are. But somewhere along the way, the system forgot that.
It breaks my heart that the system stifles the very people who build businesses. And I believe that by doing this, we’re not protecting workers—we’re shrinking futures. More and more founders I know are looking abroad, not for cheaper labor, but for the freedom to lead well again.
And that should worry us all. Because when the American dream becomes unlivable for its dreamers, the dream doesn’t die—it just moves to another country.
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It’s giving people a life they deserve.
I started outsourcing to Argentina to find more reliable help without breaking the bank. I needed support for my U.S. business, and Argentina offered:
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- Time-zone alignment
- Cultural proximity
At the time, I only saw these three benefits. What I didn’t realize was the positive impact we could have on a hire in Argentina, and that’s what turned this into something bigger for me. Because what keeps me going isn’t the cost savings—it’s watching lives shift on both sides of the hire.
The story of Kande stands out to me. Before we worked together, she was in retail, working late shifts, enduring long commutes, and earning a paycheck that barely covered her bills. There were nights she even skipped meals just to save a few pesos. Then we placed her with a U.S.-based client: a remote role, an aligned time zone, and triple the pay. Everything changed.
She’s still working hard, but now she’s home when her kids are. She’s saving money for the first time and building confidence. She’s showing up energized and being seen for what she can do. That’s the part that never gets old for me.
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Most leadership mistakes don’t happen because people don’t care. They happen because things stay vague for too long.
I see this over and over again with founders and leaders.
They say things like
“I thought it was obvious.”
“I assumed they understood.”
“I didn’t want to micromanage.”And then, weeks later, they feel frustrated, disappointed, or quietly resentful.
Here’s the uncomfortable truth.
Clarity is not micromanagement.
Clarity is kindness.When expectations live only in your head, people are forced to guess. When priorities are implied instead of stated, people fill in the gaps with their own assumptions. When feedback comes too late, it feels personal instead of useful.
Most teams don’t fail because of a lack of talent. They fail because of a lack of shared understanding.
The leaders who grow the fastest are the ones willing to say the obvious out loud. Even when it feels repetitive. Even when it feels uncomfortable. Even when they worry they’re being too direct. Especially then.
Strong leadership isn’t about having all the answers. It’s about creating an environment where people know where they’re headed, how their work fits in, and what success actually looks like.
That means clearly naming priorities, giving feedback early rather than perfectly, explaining the why and not just the what, and making decisions visible instead of hiding them in private conversations.
When clarity becomes the norm, something shifts.
People stop second guessing themselves. Energy goes into execution instead of interpretation. Trust increases because there are fewer surprises. And leaders stop carrying everything alone.
If you’re feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or disappointed with how things are playing out on your team, ask yourself this before changing the people: have I truly made the expectations clear?
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