A couple of weeks ago, I announced that I’m relaunching my podcast—this time focusing on female entrepreneurs: how they lead, how they grow their teams, and how they build businesses that last. Because I truly believe that we women lead differently.
This week, I finally sat down with Merlijn Mazairac to record the first episode, and I left feeling absolutely energized. From the start of our conversation, the connection was there. She spoke with such openness about living abroad, building her consulting company, and leading her team through growth and change.
Here are three ideas from her leadership journey that inspired me most:
1️⃣ Colleagues sitting side by side for years without really knowing each other. Merlijn has seen it happen, and now uses intentional exercises to help people open up and truly connect.
2️⃣ Team fails are leadership lessons. She reminded me that struggles, mismatched hires, disconnection, and even tough exits all carry value. Talking about them openly makes us better leaders—and helps others avoid the same mistakes.
3️⃣ Salary conversations in times of inflation. She doesn’t shy away from the tough talks—the ones that test not just your budget, but your leadership itself.
For me, this first recording is about growing as a leader by listening to the honest stories of others. I’m deeply grateful to Merlijn for sharing her journey so openly—and excited for all the conversations ahead.
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Do Women Hire Differently? I Think So
Men tend to hire to plug a hole in their organization. It’s functional: a task, a role, a gap.
Women, on the other hand, often hire with their hearts. We look for chemistry, for someone we can connect with. We want to know if this person will fit into the culture, not just the job description.
Some might think that’s idealistic. I think it’s realistic, because culture drives performance.
When hiring for cultural fit, the stakes are also higher, because when every hire is an emotional investment, every mis-hire hurts twice as much.
That’s one of the reasons I started Staff4Half. I wanted an agency that understands how women hire, with empathy, connection, and care, and that can support female founders in making smart, sustainable hiring decisions.
We don’t just scan résumés for functional fits. We help founders find people who belong, who are a cultural fit in every sense. I believe the right person doesn’t just fill a role, she transforms the team.
P.S. Case in point: my VA, Amara Krausse Horlacher, who has become my second half, my second brain. This is only possible because we are emotionally aligned.
If you’ve ever felt the emotional weight of hiring, you’re not alone. And you don’t have to do it alone.
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You Can’t Build Loyalty With a Tight Fist
Raising Salaries Won’t Fix Your Turnover Problem
I’ve seen companies with sky-high churn, and others paying exactly the same where employees stick around for years.
Both assume that’s just how it is. The struggling ones blame it on the salary, saying they can’t pay enough.
Here’s what I believe: turnover is rarely about the paycheck. It’s almost always about purpose.
When we get a new inquiry and see people leaving in waves, that’s not a pay problem. That’s a culture problem hiding in plain sight.
Often these companies pay well, yet people still leave. Meanwhile, the businesses with the lowest churn have something different in common: their people know why they’re there, because they feel part of something that matters.
I don’t believe people leave companies. They leave bosses and organizations that fail to give their work meaning.
If you want people to stay, you don’t need free kombucha or another salary bump. You need to lead with purpose. And sometimes, the smallest gestures mean the most:
• A thank you when it counts
• A birthday remembered
• A dinner where work doesn’t come upBefore you raise another salary, ask yourself: does each and every team member know why they’re here?
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Stop Hiring the Person You Like. Start Hiring for What You Need.
If you don’t know what you really need, you’ll hire the person you like most.
I’ve read hundreds of small business job descriptions, and 95% make the same mistake: they’re more of a wishlist than a job description.
A typical one looks like this:
We want someone who can:
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Manage the calendar
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Write the newsletters
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Run operations
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Handle support
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Think like a strategist
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Execute like a machine
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And work across four time zones
What’s the problem with that?
It mixes six completely different skill sets: administrative, creative, operational, technical, strategic, and customer-facing. That’s not a job. It’s a fantasy.
If someone like that existed, they’d already be running their own business, not applying to work for yours.
Here’s what to do instead:
1️⃣ Write down everything you wish this person would do.
2️⃣ Circle the three most critical things.
3️⃣ Build a role around those, not all seventeen.Once you’ve found that person and developed a good rhythm, go back to your list, see what’s still open, and hire the next person.
Hiring isn’t about finding magic. It’s about making trade-offs and slowly building a team that can cover all the tasks you want to delegate.
Focus beats fantasy. Every time.
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