Have we turned hiring into Tinder?
Swipe. Match. Delete.
Hiring has started to look more and more like a high-churn dating game. Job platforms have made applying so easy that an employer can be swamped with hundreds of applications for a single role. A few get shortlisted, some get invited to interviews, and one gets chosen. The others—the ones who made it all the way to final rounds—receive a polite rejection. And that’s the end of the short romance. No follow-up. No “let’s stay in touch.”
A few months later, the new hire doesn’t work out—or another similar role needs to be filled. Suddenly the founder is scrambling: “Do you know anyone good? I need to rehire, fast.” And just like that, they’re back to hiring Tinder. Starting from scratch. Swipe. Match. Delete. Ignoring all the candidates from the last hiring round.
I believe most companies don’t have a hiring problem—they have a relationship problem. Hiring isn’t a one-off transaction. It’s a system of trust that grows over time, if it’s nurtured. It’s about keeping the door open, even when the role is already filled.
But if we treat candidates like one-time bets, it’s no wonder that hiring always feels like a cold start—with too many frogs to kiss before we get lucky (or not). The best founders I see have a relationship management system. Sometimes it’s as simple as adding every applicant on LinkedIn so that, when a new role opens up, previous candidates see it right away. That way, they keep their pipeline warm.
Great talent isn’t something we find at the push of a button. It’s something we build and foster long before we even know we need it.
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High Standards Aren’t Harsh. They’re Respect
I believe that as female founders, high standards are our strength.
Women founders often second-guess themselves. We ask for excellence, then wonder if we’re being too demanding. We hold people accountable, then feel guilty for making someone uncomfortable.
But high standards aren’t harsh. They’re clarity. They protect our teams, our clients, and the purpose we’re building toward.
Strong boundaries aren’t unfair. They help the right people rise.
And when someone isn’t aligned, letting go isn’t failure. It’s leadership with compassion.
Because we can be kind and still be clear. We can care deeply and still expect excellence. That’s not a contradiction.
That’s respect — for ourselves, for our vision, and for the people we lead.
So don’t shrink your standards to make others comfortable. They exist for a reason. And they keep you, and your business, aligned with what matters most.
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